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Normally with my Friday posts I leave off on a good note, a positive one for the weekend.
But the reality is life isn't always perfect.
Last night I failed. I failed myself. I received a grade on a paper that I was not proud of. Well, I didn't actually fail, I passed but not the way I wanted to.
When it comes to projects and goals I put in 100% of myself. This project I didn't. & it showed & bit me in the a$%. I'm upset with myself and I failed...myself.
I'm hard on myself. Very hard. Its been 31 years so far and failing is still a hard pill to swallow. So today I wanted (& needed) to read up on failure. I found this post on I wanted to share it with you....Hope you enjoy!
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“No man ever achieved worth-while success who did not, at one time or other,
find himself with at least one foot hanging well over the brink of
failure.“Napoleon Hill
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept
not trying.”
Michael Jordan
Michael Jordan
“Failures are finger posts on the road to
achievement.”
C. S. Lewis
C. S. Lewis
Failure can be quite the problem. And the fear of it can be paralyzing.
So what can you do to motivate yourself to take a chance, to overcome
possible failure and to use it to your advantage?
Here are a few timeless words of advice.
Redefine failure.
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300
games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.
I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I
succeed.”
Michael Jordan
Michael Jordan
“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail
better.”
Samuel Beckett
Samuel Beckett
“An inventor fails 999 times, and if he succeeds once, he’s in. He treats
his failures simply as practice shots.”
Charles F. Kettering
Charles F. Kettering
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more
intelligently.”
Henry Ford
Henry Ford
Failure is something that may need to be redefined within your mind. It’s not something to attach too much meaning to. But people do though.
If you look at successful people then you see that they have an abundance
mentality. They know there are new chances and opportunities if they fail. And
that there are lessons to be learned from failures. Those failures are necessary
to achieve success. Without them you don’t get the feedback that is essential
for your future success. And by making mistakes for yourself you get experience.
Reading about someone else’s mistake or knowledge isn’t the same thing as
experiencing it for yourself.
Failure is a learning experience. It can help you. But first you have to try.
Without trying you aren’t going anywhere.
Accept it.
“A lot of new obstacles are coming, a lot of new feelings are coming, …
I’m just taking it for what it is and learning from the mistakes I had this
year.”
Michael Phelps
Michael Phelps
Acceptance is very helpful when you make a mistake or fail. You can resist
the failure/mistake and beat yourself up. This creates a lot of inner suffering
and new resistance. And that makes it emotionally harder to keep going and
trying since you associate mistakes and failure with so much pain.
Acceptance is a more useful approach. It can help you to release yourself
from slipping into old, conditioned patterns of self-hurting behaviour when
something “negative” happens. You can instead see a situation such as a failure
with fresh eyes.
And instead of beating yourself up or feeling sorry for yourself you can see
the situation in a more positive and constructive way. Like for instance by
looking for the lessons or the positive stuff in your failure. One of the
greatest things about acceptance is that it can give you freedom from your old
behaviour patterns and “you acting as you have always done”.
Take responsibility.
“A man may fail many times but he isn’t a failure until he begins to
blame somebody else.”
John Burroughs
John Burroughs
A very good point. As long as you own your mistakes and failures you can
still learn. You can still adapt and find a better course to take.
But when you start blaming everyone or everything else then you don’t just
look like a bitter failure. You also give you power away. The power over what
you have learned so far and the power take action and do something. When you
give that away it’s like you are sitting down on your hands and just giving up.
You don’t have any power to move forward anymore.
Build inner strength.
“Failure is nature’s plan to prepare you for great
responsibilities”
Napoleon Hill
Napoleon Hill
Failure and rejection won’t kill you. You may think that it does and it may feel like it almost will just after it has happened. But it won’t. Instead it makes you stronger. It makes you more confident in yourself. Because over time, by piling up the failures you truly understand that this isn’t such a big deal. You have handled it before and if it comes up in the future you know that you can handle it again.
By failing you build inner strength and gain understanding of how things
work. This is crucial to be able to handle bigger responsibilities in life and
to be able to grow.
Blog Post via {The Positivity Blog}
& on that note...See you all back on Monday!
xo
M
